Dear Someone: Your worth isn't measured by those who failed to see it.
Read this if you're tired of feeling invisible, if rejection has become too familiar, or if you're questioning whether you're worthy of being cherished simply for who you are.
Dear, Dear Someone, _
Since my last letter, I've been thinking about the questions that keep you awake at night - the ones that make you wonder if there's something fundamentally wrong with you, when the real flaw lies in how others have treated you. Your pain speaks of a heart that's been asked to bend too many times, to understand too many rejections, to forgive too many betrayals.
Every time someone overlooks your worth, it feels like another brick added to a wall of doubt. Every criticism lands like a stone in the pond of your self-esteem, creating ripples that disturb your peace long after the initial impact. Every betrayal leaves you questioning not just others, but yourself, wondering if trust is a luxury you can no longer afford.
You've been carrying these questions like heavy stones in your pockets: How much more can you take? When is enough truly enough? At what point does self-preservation outweigh the risk of trying again? These are questions born from wounds, not wisdom, from hurt, not truth.
Your capacity to feel deeply isn't a weakness - it's your superpower. Your willingness to try again isn't naivety - it's courage. Your ability to care, even after being hurt, isn't foolishness - it's strength in its purest form.
Those who overlooked you weren't paying attention. Those who criticized you were projecting their own insecurities. Those who betrayed you revealed their character, not your worth. Those who underestimated you simply showed their own limitations in recognizing genuine value.
Stop measuring your worth by the yardstick of those who couldn't appreciate it. Stop counting rejections as personal failures. Stop seeing your sensitivity as a flaw. These are not defects in your character - they are proof of your capacity to love, to feel, to care deeply in a world that often settles for superficial connections.
Your heart wasn't designed to be small, safe, and protected. It was meant to be vast, vulnerable, and brave. The pain you feel is proportional to your capacity for love - and that's not something to diminish or apologize for.
You don't need to change who you are. You don't need to become harder, colder, or more distant. The world doesn't need another person afraid to feel, afraid to care, afraid to love. It needs more people like you, who dare to remain soft in a world that can be so hard.
What others see as easy to overlook, the right people will recognize as rare and precious. What some dismiss as too much emotion, others will value as depth and authenticity. What has been used against you by some will be cherished by others who understand its worth.
The breaking point you fear isn't the end - it's often the beginning. When you feel closest to giving up, you're usually on the verge of a breakthrough. The darkness before dawn isn't a sign to stop believing - it's the moment to hold on tightest to your hope.
Your sensitivity isn't your weakness - it's your gift to the world. Your deep feelings aren't too much - they're exactly what someone needs. Your willingness to try again isn't foolish - it's brave beyond measure.
Remember that being easy to hurt doesn't make you weak - it makes you real. Being easy to disappoint doesn't make you naive - it makes you someone who still believes in the good in people. Being easy to betray doesn't make you foolish - it makes you someone who dares to trust.
You don't have to bend anymore to fit into spaces too small for your spirit. You don't have to shrink to make others comfortable with their own limitations. You don't have to apologize for feeling deeply, loving wholly, or caring completely.
As these thoughts about your inherent worth and the beauty of your sensitive soul draw to a close, I hope these words help you see what I see - a heart too precious to be measured by those who couldn't recognize its value. Your journey toward self-acceptance is just beginning, and in time, you'll discover that your depth and sensitivity are not burdens to overcome, but gifts to embrace.
With unwavering belief in your worth,
—Ali Papa.
Author of Letters of Woe​ and an ever-growing library of books
Conveyor of the Vistas of Hope Newsletter​
Shepherd of Wayward Wanderer
P.S. — The ones who couldn't see your value weren't wearing the right glasses. The ones who thought you were too much weren't big enough themselves. The ones who walked away weren't meant to stay. Keep your heart open, keep feeling deeply, keep being authentically you. The right people won't ask you to be less - they'll thank you for being exactly who you are.
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