Dear Someone: Your relationship will be a failure if you continue to project your insecurities onto your partner's faults.

Read this if you find yourself constantly blaming your partner for the problems in your relationship, only to realize that perhaps the issues you see are actually reflections of your own insecurities.

Dear, Dear Someone, _

Have you ever gazed into the eyes of your loved one and seen not their soul but your own fears staring back at you? Have you found yourself criticizing your partner for traits that, if you're brutally honest, resonate a little too closely with your own hidden insecurities? If so, you're not alone. You're standing at the crossroads of self-awareness and relationship dynamics, a place where growth and pain often intertwine.

I realized this truth only when I became exhausted and demoralized trying to be a good person.

For eight long years, I watched as the person I loved most in the world slowly chipped away at my self-esteem. Every interaction became a minefield, where innocent comments were twisted into personal attacks, and my smallest flaws were magnified into irredeemable failures. I couldn't understand why someone who claimed to love me seemed so determined to tear me down.

It wasn't until our relationship crumbled that I finally saw the truth. The constant criti…