Dear Someone: Some people are better loved from afar if distance can bring peace that proximity cannot.
Read this if you're struggling with the weight of a marriage that's crumbling, if you're learning that sometimes the most loving choice is to release someone, if you need permission to choose peace...
Dear, Dear Someone, _
Love begins as a tender embrace, a promise of warmth and connection that fills our hearts with hope and possibility. Yet sometimes, that same embrace slowly transforms into something that constricts rather than comforts, leaving us to face one of life's most profound paradoxes: that sometimes the deepest expression of love lies not in our grip, but in our release. It lies not in holding on, but in letting go.
I write to you today from a place of intimate understanding, having walked through the valley of this painful transformation myself. The suffocating weight of a marriage that once held such promise but delivered sorrow instead - this is a burden I know well. Like you, I've felt that deep ache that seems to hollow out your soul, that haunting silence that echoes through empty rooms once filled with dreams of forever.
What I've learned, through tears and time, is that this journey of letting go isn't the failure it feels like - it's courage dressed in wisdom's clothes, strength wearing grace like a second skin. Some people, I've come to understand, are better loved from a distance, where the space between allows both hearts to beat their own rhythm and find their own peace. This truth doesn't make the path easier, but it makes it clearer, lighting the way toward healing for both souls involved.
When I married my best friend, I believed we were embarking on a journey of lifelong happiness. But instead of finding marital bliss, we stumbled into a silent torment that stretched out over eight long years. We tried everything to bridge the gaps between us and mend the fractures in our relationship, but it felt like the harder we tried, the more we drifted apart. The love that once burned so brightly between us gradually dimmed into a cold, distant memory.
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