Dear Someone: If you’ve ever had to ask for help in a relationship… you need to read this.
On love, leverage, and learning how not to lose yourself while asking for more
Dear, Dear Someone, _
There’s a kind of silence that sits between love and money. It doesn’t shout. It lingers. It whispers:
“Do I ask?”
“Will he think less of me?”
“Does support come with strings?”
Some women have mastered how to ask. Others still choke on the words. Some men give too quickly. Others give nothing at all but still expect the world in return.
This is the messy space where How to Scam Your Man Financially was born.
And no—it’s not what you think.
This book isn’t about trickery.
It’s about truth.
It’s about the power of influence and the misuse of emotional leverage.
It’s about those unspoken transactions we make in romantic partnerships where money becomes the currency of care—or control.
If you’ve ever felt guilty for asking,
If you’ve ever pretended not to need help just to protect your pride,
If you’ve ever been generous to someone who kept moving the goalpost,
Then this isn’t just a book.
It’s a reality check.
Inside, you’ll find insights like:
Why most men don’t really hear your dreams—just your demands.
How emotional storytelling has replaced strategic planning.
Why timing and tone can make or break your request.
The difference between building with a man and billing him blind.
And why sometimes “Help me” is a quiet hustle hiding in plain sight.
I didn’t write this book to start fights. I wrote it to start conversations. Conversations about respect. About power. About reciprocity. And about what it truly means to partner financially without guilt-tripping, manipulating, or playing victim.
If you’ve ever:
Felt like you’re always the giver in your relationship,
Wondered why he funds others but not you,
Wondered why “support me” doesn’t always get a yes,
Felt guilty asking for money in a relationship,
Suspected you’re being played in the name of love, or
Simply want to become smarter with how you give, receive, and build…
Or questioned whether you’re really building a future—or just sponsoring someone’s fantasy…
Then I invite you to read this.
Not every “help me” is innocent. Sometimes it’s soft strategy. Sometimes it’s a subtle hustle. Sometimes it’s a silent scream we dress in sweetness. We all do it. We all feel it. And most of us never talk about it.
So I did.
Available for FREE download to all Tribe Members here, How to Scam Your Man Financially isn’t just a provocative title. It’s a mirror. It’s a handbook. And it just might be the uncomfortable but necessary shift you didn’t know your relationship needed.
Whether you’re the giver, the asker, or the confused in-betweener, this book was written with you in mind. For every woman who’s felt unseen. For every man who’s felt used. For every couple playing tug-of-war with wallets and egos.
This isn’t about games—it’s about growth.
Get your copy now then come back and tell me what it revealed.
Not just about him.
But about you.
With radical honesty,
—Ali Papa.
Author of Letters of Woe
Conveyor of the Vistas of Hope Newsletter
Shepherd of Wayward Wanderer
P.S. — This book won’t give you permission to manipulate. It will give you perspective, power, and the language to finally ask for what you need—without shame, fear, or pretense. It will challenge what you believe about money, love, and influence—and that’s the point. It’s not written to make you comfortable. It’s written to make you conscious. If it stirs something in you, don’t ignore it. And if you're a man reading this, it might just open your eyes to a truth you've been funding in silence. Read it. Share it. Talk about it. And if you're brave enough, read it with your partner. Let’s stop pretending, and start partnering.
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